You should never depend on others for your own happiness! Stop giving others that responsibility! You have a choice everyday to be happy or miserable when you wake up. Choose happiness! But don’t put that burden on anyone else. Be mindful they must live their life. So while they live their life, make the choice to be happy for self while living your best life 😊
Hi all, Emilia N. @emiliantherapy here! Ever feel as though you’re constantly trying to please others when those others seem as though they could not care less about pleasing you? Ever literally feel yourself become overcome with worry and discomfort, as though you can literally feel your stomach turning when others are upset with you or unsatisfied with what you’re able to give them?
While there are many possible reasons for this, one big reason for this is growing up with a mom, dad, parents, or others family members or guardians who would react inappropriately towards you if they felt that you were not satisfying their emotional needs (whether or not they were yours to satisfy). Perhaps they’d scream, make themselves appear helpless, guilt you, or make you feel like a bad daughter, son, or family member.
How does this impact us as adults? This can lead to us expecting unhealthy reactions from others as adults, whether they are likely to occur or not, and can cause us to try and please others at the expense of making ourselves uncomfortable. We begin to dread and fear being shamed, guilted, manipulated, or yelled at for not fulfilling others needs and we push ourselves to fulfill the needs of others to not feel those things. We do this because fulfillment of others needs becomes a compulsion for us and often acting on compulsions can provide us with a sense of relief from our anxiety.
The way to overcome literally feeling your stomach turn when you’re not fulfilling others’ emotional needs is through creating boundaries. It is not by pleasing others at the expense of your own physical and mental health. Doing so does not relieve anxiety. It reinforces it. Love yourself enough to put your emotional needs first when you have to. You cannot show others love through emotional generosity if you yourself are emotionally broken.
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There’s something damn empowering about being unapologetically YOU 💛
Let’s be real.. resisting being your natural self takes a lottt of energy. Hiding, conforming, all those fronts we put up.. exhausting. And being yourself can be seriously scary, but it’s soOoOoo worth
I’ve found I am becoming more & more myself by honouring all I am, what I want, & my intuition. Plus not caring so much about what others think of me or my life decisions! I’m finding the freedom I’ve been craving 🧚🏼♀️
Being myself means a lot of things to me. It means freedom, room to grow, stepping into my higher self, standing up, speaking my truth, putting myself out there, feeling all my feels, living my best life, optimally serving others, alignment, surrendering, love.. so much. It also means take it or leave it 😉
When you are truly yourself, the world around you adjusts! You create more space for right opportunities, things, & people to find you 🙌🏼
Plus.. you’re totally awesome. I know so. & I only have one thing left to say because it came into my head & now I can’t not - Shineeee onn you crazzyyy diamonddd! ✨🌈 (I hope you just sang that in your head, I can’t read it and not)
Recently saw an interview with Jeff Bezos. As of writing this he's the richest person in the world and @amazon hit a trillion dollar valuation.
- He was talking about planning and how someone congratulated him on a good 2018 quarter. He thinks, thank you, but I'm already planning on how to have a good quarter in 2021. #goalsetter#masterplan
✨S A C R E D S P A C E✨
Whether it’s a peaceful spot in nature, or your favorite room in the house, designate a ‘sacred space’ for yourself. Use it as a quiet place to meditate or to do some meaningful reflection on your daily happenings. Take it all in and breathe it all out 🙏🏻
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Humans have between 50,000 to 70,000 thoughts per day. That’s between 35 and 48 thoughts per minute per person. Imagine if we were to react to all of these thoughts, this world would literally be a madhouse. What’s interesting though, is that we tend to react to the same particular thoughts on a daily basis. These specific thoughts have been shaped by our external world (parents, friends, media, society), and we’ve internalized them believing they are our own. And although we have mastered showing the world how in control we look on the outside, it is no doubt that we’re experiencing much lack of control on the inside.
So happy to share with you guys a little bit about my experience with Mindfulness and how it's helped me achieve a sense of peace in this chaotic world, and most importantly, in this chaotic mind. To read more, visit the link in my bio ᯽
KNOW THAT YOU ARE IN THE PERFECT MOMENT IN YOUR LIFE... Perfect time and heading in the right direction. If you know and understand the LAWS OF INTENT, then you are heading the the perfect direction and if you do not know the laws then it is a good thing there are teachers like me out there. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Find a great mentor to help guide you to be in touch with your Inner Genie (your subconscious mind) and learn how to empower yourself for the rest of your life.
Inner Genie Mastery Level 1 is for those of you who are ready to learn a combination of self empowering 'Intuitive Self Coaching' techniques that teach you how to trust yourself and bring your dreams, wishes, wants and desires into reality... by teaching you how to train your subconscious mind to move your own body to answer a lazer focused question that you created on topics such as; how to fix yourself, how to make more money, how to find your perfect partner (really any question you want to ask and receive an answer to), and know without a doubt that you are about to take the next best action step for you.
What does the word 'INTUITIVE' mean; Intuitive is your higher self, your subconscious mind, your INNER GENIE,your ability to trust the feelings, thoughts, dreams or words that your gut is trying to tell you.
What does the word 'SELF' mean; You have the power, the ability, the confidence to shift. Any other person, place or thing just amplifies your intent to heal, accomplish your goals or excel in your dreams, wishes, wants and desires.
What does the word 'COACHING' mean; Asking yourself the perfect QUESTION and taking the correct ACTION.
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If you want to spread joy to others, which many of us do, we have to feel happy with our own lives, bodies, and selves first. Yes, doing a random act of kindness can boost your mood, but we're talking about living with joy, not just temporarily experiencing it. Make time for self-care, play, physical touch, movement, delicious food, mindfulness, fun with friends, relaxing, projects that feed your soul, all of it. We obviously don't have time to do all of these things every day, but be conscious of how you're spending your time and what you're prioritizing over these things and why. You deserve to be delighted. #uncustomaryselflove
Happy #mommyandmemonday!!!! We are #reclaimingourtime as we press pause and take a minute to reset. Join us as we go through a guided meditation which includes using exercises to silence our minds and a body scan. There are many benefits to meditating but our intentions are centered around creating...
3. Aiding mental processing
No matter your intention, give your mind a break & your #monday a boost!👍🏽❤ This meditation is now available on #facebook & #youtube.
Insomnia. A crippling affliction which affects so many. You will hear of so many ‘quick fix’ solutions in the media and online, but the truth is that there is no quick fix. Sleep is regulated by your body clock and an internal homeostatic ‘drive’ which is developed throughout the day. Only through consistently changing certain behaviours and reducing the anxiety and the pressure that we put on ourselves to ‘try and sleep’ can we start making proper progress. If you want to speak to an actual certified sleep specialist, and finally start making some progress, then get in touch via a direct message or through the website (link in the bio above)! Skype consultations are equally as effective for results as seeing a specialist in person (and far more convenient)! Don’t continue to suffer and struggle through each day, be proactive and take action! Life is there to be lived to the full 🙌🏼😊
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THE CALL TO ADVENTURE
I gave a podcast interview recently, and I was asked if I have a mantra. What came to mind is Joseph Campbell’s line “the privilege of a lifetime is to be who you are.” It truly is a *privilege* to think and act from the heart. Since I’ve started my own business, I’ve been feeling so free, so exhilarating to experiment with ideas and ways of working. More than that, I have slowly discovered my own voice, the freedom of authenticity I’ve craved back in the corporate world, where for whatever reason I felt silenced, constricted, my talents barely uncovered, my deepest creativity barely tapped.
In my 40s, I readily embraced my woman power, I have taken the lead on my own journey, and kissed conventional wisdom goodbye, in favor of my soul’s wisdom.
We’re here to take our own journey, to build our authenticity muscles and embrace our unique and powerful role in the ongoing creation of the world.
When you find yourself wondering “is this it?” it’s a sign you’re in exploration mode, and that you’re about to take a leap in your journey. Your subconscious is already scanning and searching for the next step.
I found myself stuck at that inflection point for a long time. If you’re there, allow yourself to pause, take a breath, and realize you’re about to go on the next stage of your life. All it takes is a “yes”, an acceptance of the possibilities that are about to open up to you.
If taken, the next step on your journey will separate you from your old world, and trials will begin. When we’re open to the Call of Adventure, the next stage will pull us with ease, with an irresistible power. And then, “what formerly was meaningful may become strangely emptied of value” (Joseph Campbell, The Hero with a Thousand Faces). _
Are you feeling the call to your next adventure? I’d love to know what it sounds like for you!
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Sometimes when we’re not actively taking a direct and obvious step towards our goals we tend to judge or doubt ourselves and use future oriented language like, “I need to get back on track. I shouldn’t do X, I ought to do Y.” But what if we consider all the action and non action things we do as steps towards our goals?
Wouldn’t you say it’s hard to maintain momentum? On one hand an act of self care like sleeping in could be considered “avoiding” but on another hand it could be a natural and needed step towards the goal. In this lens sleeping in becomes a way to manage your energy and mental health, so you can keep fueled up, for your goal.
Using present oriented- language like, “I’m doing it— and I’m gonna sleep in because I trust my self. This is for my goal, I’m on my way towards achieving my goal” feels different — doesn’t it?
What does trust look like in your life?
When talking feels like it’s keeping you in circles, then maybe try putting it down and shift your energy.
Ground a scattered mind, release a heavy heart.
I share a variety of ways to help release emotions, fogginess, apathy, tiredness and stagnant energy.
What would letting go feel like?
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Do you know why I show many inspirational videos like this on Instagram?
It’s because I know many of you want to get business advice and learn how to be an entrepreneur and have people show you how to do it so you can make money and provide the life you want.
But let me be very, very honest with you right now.
You aren’t going to learn how to run a business by following me or anybody else on Instagram. It’s not going to happen.
To learn how to run a business, you are going to have to learn how to overcome challenges in your life while Increasing your skills as an entrepreneur.
And the way to learn how to do that is to get mentors in your life that will help you by sharing their knowledge with you.
I show these videos to show you that no matter what your circumstances are, if you perservere, you can do anything you want.
These videos are meant to inspire you to get off of Instagram and stop thinking that you will learn how to be a millionaire on Instagram. I am a millionaire. But I did not use social media at all to learn how to be a millionaire.
That’s why I created this account. To share what it’s really like to go from a low income family to becoming financially independent at the age of 40.
And social media had nothing to do with it.
Don’t get me wrong, social media is a great platform to use to market and sell services as well as network. But you are going to go to school on Instagram.
If there is even one of you that is trying to be an entrepreneur that does not have any mentors that you can ask questions and get real responses back to you on an ongoing basis, and you’re willing to invest in that relationship by spending a little bit of money, then feel free to send me a direct message. I have the perfect platform for you.
You are not going to learn how to run a business on Instagram. What you will get from Instagram is the ability to be inspired and motivated to accomplish all of your goals.
When you’re ready to put it into action outside of Instagram, just hit me up and we can help you.
Have an amazing day!
Ask A Millionaire
Happiness is an inside job. No amount of money, relationships or material things can make you happy. They might bring you moments of joy and pleasure or a sense of freedom, but you still have to BE happy on the inside before and after you HAVE all you want. Type “YES” below if you agree! We’ve seen it too often, many successful people “have” it all, and then become alcoholics, drug addicts or commit suicide and it confuses us. In this episode with @mikeposner we explore death, the power of making music and finding purpose in life. It’s a beautiful interview and I’d love to hear your thoughts on it. Click link in bio and share on your insta story your biggest takeaway! #SchoolofGreatness#life#death#happiness