This is a hard lesson for a naturally loud, center of attention seeking person like myself. Ouch that was hard even to write. But that’s what I’m here to do, get real and grow strong. It’s much easier to stay focused on and grow our strengths. Hide the parts that actually need the work, because looking at them is embarrassing and hard. I’m working on not making my conversations “all about me”. I told this to a friend recently and I was so relieved when she said she didn’t think of me as that kind of person at all. While her words were comforting and made me feel better, I still knew deep down I wasn’t off the hook for this lesson, that it was brought to me for a reason and is something my spirit wants to work on. When I catch myself thinking about what I’m going to say next in conversation, I try and think “listen, listen fully, listen to learn.”
I know I said once a week, but this one was on my mind.
Al Hart is an aging manager who represents stand up comedian’s, who is not ready to retire. Living on his own. His granddaughter recommended a retirement home for him, so he won’t be along. After convincing him to take a tour of the place, he comes across Buddy Greene. Al Hart first client. They rekindle the relationship. through the laughs, and with death creeping around the corner. Al convinced Buddy to hit to road one last time. To end it at the Ed Sullivan theatre. Where Buddy declined the offer to meet Ed fifty years ago.
I did have high hopes for it, with Chevy Chase and Richard Dreyfuss.
But.... it did disappoint me. With plot holes, with it being rushed the second half, the usual story of mortality, time is against you, trying to live it one last time. It’s a story we see to much of.
But, it does have its moments, not much but a few.
I recommend as a good background noise.
The amount of fascinating scenes of nature and its varying stages out here is still incredible to me. This was from right before the snows hit, but it was just along the sidewalk as I was coming home one day. Similarly there have been little dramatic scenes played out in footprints of raccoons, birds, and other animals in the snow, even right outside my door.
I'm so thankful to be able to experience all of these different aspects of life, especially in the face of a bent throughout the modern culture that wants to pretend nothing icky exists (but if it has to exist, can it do it inconspicuously over somewhere else where we can't see it).
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Using the sauna 4-7 times a week decreased all-cause mortality rates by 40%. It increases heat shock protein production and activates the longevity gene. This type of heat stress activates other genes that protect against DNA damage, loss of immune function, and loss of stem cell function. It also protects against neurodegenerative and cardiovascular disease. Post workout sauna followed by a cold shower has become my favorite way to wake up! 🔥💧
Health is Wealth - My greatest fear in life is directly linked to my family's #health history. My #Dad and #Mom were born in 1912 and 1923, respectively. This means that I was born when my Dad was 54 and Mom was 43. Being the last child of 16, I have concluded that I might be afflicted by one of the many #diseases that my Dad and Mom had.
For what it's worth, clearly #sex was the only recreation back in those days and it was the thing for mature people to make love with babies in mind, their only protection was an unreliable pull out method. Smile!
My Dad was diagnosed with enlarged #prostate and later prostate cancer. He was also confirmed to have hypertension, arthritis and #heart disease. My Mom was no better, she was diabetic for over 50 years and lived on insulin most of her life. She was diagnosed with heart related diseases, the muscles of her aorta were weak, she lost the lower part of both legs and she suffered from high blood pressure.
Dad eventually died from prostate #cancer, after two major #surgeries, at age 76. Mom was stronger. She died at age 86 after suffering 2 major strokes. I should also tell you that I have lost three siblings to heart diseases and cancer.
People people, can you imagine my dilemma! I have lived and seen #death live and direct. I have watched the suffering and death of 5 #family members. While working in the health system, at KPH/VJH/SERHA, I also saw hundreds of deaths. I clearly came in contact with #morbidity and #mortality. A simple calculation revealed that my family's life expectancy is 66 years at this point, compared to the national average of 73 for #Jamaicans.
It might sound morbid, but #death is one sure event that all living things will experience. One way to #fight death is to live life to its fullest. So for those who say "Dr. Dee why do you #smile and #laugh so much... always having #fun". Now you know! I am 52, which means that I have less time on earth than I have already lived. My motto is therefore - Per Minute #Living! Powered by #Life. (BLOG COMING SOON)
Balance is one of my favorite topics to learn and talk about. So many energies pulling us every different way, all day long.
Do you have any #mantras that help you work towards a more balanced/centered life? ❤️🚀 Artwork by @realfunwow 👍🏻
“Papered Sky” - Beauty is often in the simple things. These are handmade tissue paper strands dangling in a street in the Havana sky for New Year’s Eve. There was a delicateness and fragility that contrasted w/ the bright colours and sky, reminding me that there is a beauty to new beginnings although it’s all so temporary.
There will be real and imaginary worries and fears throughout our parenting and family adventure. .
In my experience, there are very few times in life when our mortality and our child’s mortally will seem so acutely within reach.
Fear will be part of our lives, but how can we embrace it while transforming it into something useful for both us and our children?
Photo credit: @blissbirth