Back to recognizing what my priorities were in life... (refer to my last post)... . 🙌🏻 .
I had to recognize what my goals were and who I needed to be + what I needed to do + who I needed to surround myself with in order to achieve those. .
I focused on prioritizing myself, my time, my energy first and foremost! (THIS IS EVERYTHING)✨
I’ve learned that loving and living from your overflow is one of the most responsible things you can do. .
Truly, the greatest love you can ever give the world is the demonstration of you loving yourself!! Through your actions, words, decisions, relationships... it matters.
I read once that “we can’t love [give, serve] from our cup. We have to love from the saucer.” ☕️
Not only is this a beautiful way to serve others with your very best self, but it allows you to do it from a place of authenticity and love. You were born from a place of “enough-ness” and worthiness just for being you since your first breath. 😉
so let that go, and focus on being the brightest you possible. And then using our gifts to shine that brightness into the world is just icing on the cake. 😘
3 197 hours ago
I remember those days when I lived for others.
I CRAVED IT.
I LIVED FOR IT.
I DEFINED MYSELF BY IT.
Feeling needed or feeling like I needed to contribute to someone else’s happiness in some way... the truth is, I craved the happiness it brought others for me to be “that” person for them. Whoever that person was...
To be labeled as a “people pleaser” didn’t sound so bad to me. 🤷🏻♀️ It was better than being labeled self-centered, right?
But I was being praised for (unknowingly) morphing into whoever I needed to be to please others - (heck- even those who didn’t support or respect me). ☝🏻 .
I came to a turning point in my life where I realized how harmful this habit was for my current well-being and for my future. .
I felt like I had lost myself.
Lost my spark.
Lost my joy.
Lost my confidence.
Lost my values.
Lost the Lindsey I knew was deep down. Why did I feel so empty just from “trying to be a good person”?
Looking back, I see how unintentionally inauthentic this way of living had been.
I had set myself up for disappointment by placing my worth in other people’s hands. Seeking their approval.
A dangerous place for it to be...
It’s a risky game of cause and effect. Acting & speaking while always HOPING for a positive response.
HOPING to get that positive affirmation from others or a pat on the back.
All for what? A temporary (empty) high. .
It was a painful realization to come to, let me tell you. My life had to change drastically in many painful ways to overcome this “disease to please”. Years of behavior and internal dialogue to redirect.
Once I realized I could say yes to others without saying NO to myself, things changed. 🙌🏻 I could use my gifts but in a way that lifted others without attachment to the outcome. (Imagine that!)😉
I had to first recognize what my priorities were in life.
. * to be continued ...
. .(check out my next photo to see how I became a recovering people pleaser... 😉🙌🏻)
Got to meet THE @simonsinek. Thank you so much for inspiring us with your stories, vision, perspective, and wisdom focusing on leadership, team work, hope, compassion, purpose, and figuring out your "why." Out of the entire one and a half hour presentation the one key message that was most memorable to me was how you elaborated on the difference between the perspective of having "appreciation" as opposed to having "expectations." I hope our paths will cross again one-day. You've definitely inspired me to pursue my dreams of inspiring others and leaving an everlasting impact. As you stated to me before we parted: "An idea is where I began - in the living room of my friend's home. However, once you have an idea you must execute. Best of luck with your journey." Till next time, Simon. Till next time.
It's not about whether you spend your life in a boardroom,your bedroom ,or on a beach. When you look back on your life,the only thing that matters is, did you spend it doing what you love with the people you love? Were you happy? Did you make the most of this beautiful, terrifying,messed up life? Did you let go of all the things that held you back so you can hold on to what matters most .. 😊