I was the queen of cut off. Someone “made me mad”...cut them off. Someone hurt or betrayed me...cut them off. Emotional cut off was another unhealthy coping mechanism of mine. If an emotion made me feel “weak” or “vulnerable” I would find a way to cut off, “not care”, dismiss or minimize it. If that didn’t work I would get angry about it...why? Angry was how I knew to protect myself. Angry I felt strong. Angry “they would think twice about trying me”⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Over time this pattern left me feeling empty and alone and rigid. In my healing journey I realized I had to change the story that had me stuck in survival mode. It had me always looking out for someone’s ulterior motive, keeping my guard up. Cutting people off did not allow space for clearing up misunderstandings, healing wounds or reconciliation. Cutting myself off from my emotions stunted my personal development, limited my long term memory, and had me stuck in the same loops over & over. I was reaching personal goals but wasn’t able to enjoy them.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
I rewrote the story keeping me stuck. I learned how to find the hidden gems in adversity, I learn how to make hurt & pain my teachers, I learned balance. I can now understand how my experiences were instrumental in positioning me where I am now. I now have the compassion and understanding required to support people who have lived through some 💩. I can guide others through the process of changing their story not only because of my years of training & research but also because I have journeyed through the 💩 to find the 💐 myself.
Are you ready to change the story that has you stuck into one of resilience and purpose?
Join my virtual workshop - #MyStoryofResilience - going beyond #survivalmode , transforming your past hurts into a story of emotional freedom, growth & healing! Comment "Yes" or message me if you are interested (feel free to tag friends).