There is no better way to get the alcohol out of your system than an hour running in the cold wind on a Sunday morning 😜 My first run in Galway would have been better with my intended running partner but he preferred the warm bed to my company, I guess 🤷♂️ I wouldn’t name and shame him but @tanyabuck1 knows who it is😜 #galwayrunning#irishrunner#galwaycity#runforfun
It's common advice in personal development circles to "cleanse" your life of negative people.
While it is important to stay away from physically or verbally abusive individuals, I do however question the 'detox from your friends' view, especially when it's given without considering deeper personal, or indeed ideological implications.
Generally whenever I have attempted to avoid uncomfortable relationships, I have just run in to the same situation again & again; just different faces.
So, the lesson I have learnt here is that it is more often than not my own inner work that needs attention, not those around me.
This isn't to say that my feelings are invalid, or wrong, but more an acknowledgement that we cannot ever change others, only ourselves.
And, in most uncomfortable situations we all have some inner work to do!
So, I would ask, not if the individual stimulating charge in body is someone I should avoid, but what is this person emotionally bringing up for me to heal?
More often than not, when I address the root cause of my "charge" and feelings, this relationship has either softened or naturally dissolved, without force, fear or subsequent repetitive cycles of self doubt and accusation.
There is also a serious ideological consideration we all need to reflect upon when we read about avoiding 'negative' people.
And, this is an issue of diversity and difference.
Do we really want to surround ourselves in elitist circles, where everyone agrees with each other and feels the same?
I think not. Diversity is great. Differences, while at times uncomfortable, are healthy.
Negativity is not something to fear. We all have it. It just requires some honesty, reflection, and a large dose of patience and kindness towards ourselves, as well as others.
While taking time "out" of relationships can be important to create space for growth, just keep in mind, that it's the inner work that is the master key to change.
More 📸 of lotus blossoms over my blog via bio.
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I think the city is doing a countdown to Christmas with reindeer! Last time I checked there were only two, but a few days later there are now a half-dozen... Other options being the painters are running late and the deer are being delivered as finished or they were placed all around town and when found (reported via some social media contest) moved to Eyre Square. Or magic!