How to convince someone with depression that you love them? It’s impossible! Don’t waste your time!... You lovingly asked him to get out of bed for dinner. “Not hungry,” he says. “I’ll make your favorite beef noodles,” you offered. He doesn’t utter a word 🤬 Oops, that’s all specific only to my life. Hmmm, I might’ve revealed too much... Anyways, you see how that was wasted effort?! Your affection and concern are all lies to him. Think about it, do you really love him? What’s there to love when he constantly screams and threatens to kill himself? Better to cut your losses now before YOU get depressed 🥊🥊🥊 WTF! Sorry! Please disregard what you’ve just read 🙏 😅 My depression hijacked the beginning of this post. I fought it off for now... Ok, it’s hard to answer this question, but this is what worked when I’m depressed: First, you need to teach me what love means all over again. Depression regressed me to a child who never learned about the birds and the bees. Read me the definition from Webster’s dictionary, use visual aids if necessary (I like collages). Explain love to me with your poetry, show love to me with your photos, send love to me with your song, give love to me with your dance, make love to me with your soul ❤️ Show me your passion, your tears, your sweat, and your biceps 💪. Tell me you’re gonna kick depression’s fucking ass to the moon 🌙 Show me you have my back like the Spartans in the 300 movie ⚔️Show me your broken heart, show me your unbearable pain, show me I’m not the only one suffering (remind me everyday)... Then you need to drag me out of bed, shove beef noodles down my throat, chain me to a chair, and force me to watch Gilmore Girls with you (shit, too specific again) 🤭 Even if I say I don’t believe love can ease my torment, tell me to “BELIEVE THAT YOU BELIEVE” love will find a way... But most importantly, depression is an incurable illness. So if love can’t take my depression away... please don’t blame yourself...
What is love?
We would like to share with everyone the charity we will be supporting this year: Sakhi for South Asian Women. Sakhi is an organization based in New York City with the aim to end violence against women. They provide a wide range of support to survivors, from social support to economic empowerment programs. Through their community outreach programs and policy initiatives, Sakhi is ending the stigma and making domestic violence a public issue instead of a private one. Proceeds from BMXII will be dedicated to improving the lives of these women and their children, and helping them regain control of their lives. For more information, check out their website (sakhi.org) or ours (buckeyemela.com). Buckeye Mela Executive Board is honored to support such an imperative cause. #EndtheStigma#EmpowerWomen#MELAISCOMING
its the holidays so I’m making sure I load up on all the fresh, in season produce to balance out the other treats I’ll be celebrating with.
beet hummus with roasted romanesco, golden beets + purple carrots. a very yummy, non boring way to get those phytonutrients in.
aim for a plate with all the colors 🌈 so your mind stays healthy + happy and your skin glowing for those holiday parties. win win. 😉
Happy Sunday all!
Hope everyone had a great weekend!!
Please help welcome my friend @lafemmeconfiante from the GREEN State of Colorado to the #KeepingItReal Family👊🏼
Flor has been a guest on Coffee With Joe and is definitely on board with the movement to end the Stigma behind Mental Health! As she didn’t just purchase 1 shirt but purchased 5!!!for friends to help spread the awareness🙏🏻
I’ve also been lucky enough to help mentor this young lady with her business and I’m super pumped to say that she is doing amazing and growing rapidly👌🏼
Flor, your doing great my friend!! Now to tackle employees and build you a solid team to keep your growth going💪🏼
Did I also forget to mention that Flor is only 20 years old and perusing her dream of being an entrepreneur!😉🙌🏼
Flor I’m proud of you for taking the leap of faith and perusing YOUR DREAM!!
I only see bright things for your future!😊
Holidays can be difficult but my key to a successful sober holiday season is to STAY BUSY!! Our thoughts can be a dangerous place. Do not allow yourself much if any down time. Down time leads to getting into your own head. Find a hobby that you love and get busy. Reach out if you need someone to talk to. I’m only a message or a call away❤️❤️❤️ we do recover my friends. This will be my 4th sober holiday season and I have done it by staying busy and keeping myself occupied!
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Today think about the little things in life that make LIFE so absolutely beautiful. No matter where you are or what life’s throwing at you currently, there IS something simply BEAUTIFUL about your life, so try to find it. And enjoy it. ❄️💞
Praying for #PeteDavidson. I know the feeling he talked about today. I know it well, & it’s heightened by even the tiniest of things. I hope with all my heart that he, & anyone who suffers from any mental struggles, seeks good care. I wish I could personally tell him, specifically, that he brings joy to my life. He makes me laugh, I quote him all the time, & honestly have thought of him often once I found out about his internal struggles. We are strangers, but we are connected. I pray that those who love him hold him close, & ALWAYS listen to him.
. 1-800-273-8255 .
To you, my strangers, my worldmates, we are ALL meant to be here. Whether you believe it’s by Devine plan, or a scientific miracle, you happened! And you matter! And you are needed here. And you are wanted here.
. 1-800-273-8255 .
#selflove#mentalhealth#mentalhealthawareness#depression#anxiety#ocd#sadness#suicideprevention#loveeachother#spreadlove#spreadkindness #18002738255 #endthesilence#endthestigma#love
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The photo Liam took turned out really dark... Not sure why though 🤨😝
doing our part to help create as many good moments as possible 🍋
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**trigger warning** As 2018 comes to an end I can't help but reflect on these last few yrs. I am becoming the woman I have always looked up to. The woman I have been working on becoming.......life is a test & I honestly feel like I am winning. I may not have expensive fancy things but everything I have, I have worked for by MYSELF.
There's just one thing that keeps holding me back... My dad. 'I have had to learn how to fight for myself' because he damaged me. My very first memories are of him hurting me. He took my innocence, he broke my spirit, he violated me in ways that i thought i could never heal from. I never ever thought I could ever forgive him, I have held onto this anger towards him for such a long time. But I keep thinking that he probably had a tough upbringing too. No one ever hurts another being, especially your own child, unless they were hurt too. Healing some wounds is hard AF & some ppl never do. I have been fortunate enough to have. I have had the courage to stand up for what i believe. How? I have no fuckin idea. No clue. But....Dad, I forgive you. I am Deyce & wouldnt be who I am today if things didn't happen the way they did. I am healing. I am healing so fuckin hard in hopes that I could heal you too. I'm sorry for whatever it is that you went through. I forgive you, Jose Guadalupe Gomez Cervantez. 'I sincerely hope you find your peace.'
Hi y’all! Sara Claus here, holiday hermit at your service! 🙋🏻♀️🤶🏻🎄☃️ I wanted to do a holiday intro but I’ve been missing Fridays, so here’s a #selfiesunday I guess! 😉🎄 I also have some new friends following along since my last intro, so here’s a little get to know me! (Sidenote: This photo was a couple winters ago — it doesn’t often snow in Oregon (at least in Portland and Eugene where I live), so when it does I’m over the moon. ☃️❄️)
A few things about me, for those who might not know:
🤶🏻 If it was remotely socially acceptable, I would wear a Santa hat every single day of my life.
🎄 I keep my Christmas and holiday decorations up until February, minimum.
🤶🏻 Traditions are my favorite, and holiday traditions especially. But I gotta be sure to keep a healthy balance for myself, because...
🎄 I have OCD (yeah... #realocd, NOT ‘obsessive Christmas disorder’) and severe anxiety, which I try to share openly and frequently about on here in an effort to help #endthestigma. I’m all about healthy self care for the holidays and all the time, and about keeping conversations open regarding mental health! 🧠🎄
🤶🏻 Sweater weather and snuggle season is my absolute perfect climate — give me aallllllll the cuddles and cozies, please! 🐌🧦
🎄 Finally, holiday crafty projects are probably my absolute favorite. So I’ll be goin a little nuts over here all winter..... I hope y’all enjoy! 😂🎄
Thanks everybody for following along with my hermit holidays! I’d love to know more about your holiday selves too — what you celebrate and how, if you’re an elf like me or more of a grinch (no judgment, promise! 💚) or what some of your favorite things are about winter! ☃️❄️ Lots and lots of love, always, to all!!! 😘🎄❤️✨
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How many times a day do you practice gratitude? 🙏🏻
Answer: it should be often. Like super often 😍
Gratitude is one of the most powerful tools to help you maintain the positivity you’re working so hard for 💪🏻
I want to tell you 3 things that I’m grateful for today ⬇️
1. I’m grateful for genuinely kind people. I was at the store earlier today, and a lady simply walked past me and said, “Hi, have a blessed weekend and an amazing holiday.” That was so pure, and it reminded me how easy it is to put a smile on someone’s face. I’m grateful for her kind words and for the reminder she effortlessly gave me 🥰
2. I’m grateful for the internet. Without it, I literally wouldn’t be doing anything that I’m doing now. Without it, I wouldn’t be able to share my story with so many, give genuine advice and help to people that need it or build connections with people literally all over the world. It’s an amazing gift, and as much as I hate it sometimes, it’s also very powerful 📱
3. I’m grateful for my best friends: Forrest, Anna and Alex. I truly don’t know where I’d be without them. I’ve known Alex and Forrest for almost 9 years, and I met Anna when I was in a very new stage of my life. I’ve never had amazing relationships with family, and so my best friends are everything to me. They make me laugh on a daily basis, and they all remind of how important it is to be a good friend. I love all 3 of them with all my heart 🧡
So I ask you again...do you practice gratitude every day? It’s so amazing, and it’s such a simple way to bring an insane amount of positive vibes into your life ✨
Let’s do this together. Tell me down below one thing you’re grateful for 👇🏻
The truth about MY motivation.
Am I going to sit here and pretend I know the truth about motivation for everyone? Absolutely not. This is an account of my personal motivation, prompted by the utter lack of motivation I have at this current moment, and the fact that over the past few weeks I’ve had multiple people tell me they wish they had my motivation or drive!
New blog post up! Link in bio.💖
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⭐️new #blogmas post⭐️link in bio ⬆️ I’m making a list and checking it twice...
a favorite shot from our time working with the #25CAP fam out in SoCal. what strain would you pair with these strawberry #galaxynugs ?
3 391 hours ago
“It’s ok to have bad days.” For day 16 of #letteringselfcare.
Just a reminder for you if you’re having a bad day - some days are harder than others and that’s ok. Just know that you are not alone and it will pass eventually. Hang in there, and if all you can do today is survive, that’s ok.
A day late but here is my #whitebookstack in honor of @jennastopreading ‘s birthday. She shared her story of battle postpartum depression and is trying to raise awareness to end the stigma. Jenna, you are such a light on IG and I love watching your stories. Sending you love. 💗⚪️
“these are a few of #myfavoritemeds ❄︎ it was around this time in 2013 that I broke down and told my parents I was not okay. I’d just spent the majority of my first semester of junior year in bed. I was always tired. I was angry and panicky and unstable. The self-harm hadn’t started yet, but it was on its way. I was skipping classes. I was desperate for community and couldn’t seem to find it. Studies show the biggest triggers for suicide are the feeling of not belonging and the feeling that one is a burden. I had both.
I’d never seen a therapist before. I felt I didn’t have “enough problems” to merit seeking help. Thankfully, I went anyway. A few sessions were all my therapist needed to be convinced I needed medication.
So I broke. I told my parents I’d been seeing a therapist. I told them about the semester. I told them I was not okay and that I couldn’t keep my head above water on my own.
My mom sat with me at the doctor’s office as I was prescribed Lexapro for depression.
It wasn’t enough. So they added lorazepam.
It wasn’t enough. So they added Wellbutrin. Then upped the dosage. Then took me off Lexapro and upped Wellbutrin some more.
Eventually, after 3 years of misdiagnoses, a therapist finally 1. had the courage to diagnose me with #BPD and 2. had the patience necessary to convince me I was also bipolar – something two others had tried to tell me, but I refused the diagnosis.
So in 2017, I switched anxiety meds and got on Lamotrigine, a #bipolar medication. And with therapy and meds (and hard work – dealing with mental illness is HARD WORK) I can say, 5 years later, I am “okay.” I am stable. I am functioning. I am healthy. I am happy.
I just needed meds to get me here.
There is no shame in needing medication. There is no shame in needing therapy. There is no shame in being mentally ill.” - @maggie.e.marshall
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I’ve felt really out of control lately when it comes to food. I’m not bingeing. I’m barely grazing. But I still feel that what I’m doing isn’t right by my body and mind. I’m debating going back fully to my treatment meal plan for a while. I just don’t know if that’s my eating disorder wanting to be safe or maybe I’m failing at intuitive eating. I don’t know. Part of me wants the control that the meal plan provides. Part of me wonders if the discomfort I feel might actually be good and mean I’m growing in my recovery.
Either way, I feel like I’m failing.
3 452 hours ago
Friendly reminder to set your own boundaries (especially during the holiday season) ✨
Hangover free holiday's are my kind of holiday's. Stepping out to a holiday party tonight and brining along a bottle of my favorite juice. I would have never done this the first year of sobriety because quite frankly I wasn't ready and it would have totally been out of my comfort zone. I think it is key to know what you are comfortable with and don't step an inch out of your comfort zone. No is a complete sentence. Use it. You don't have to make it to every party. You don't have to make it to any. Do what is right for you. Have a great sober Friday night loves!!❤️ // shop my entire look head to toe on the blog- click the link in my bio😘
Say hello to my meds. Lamictal helps my mood swings and keeps me from getting too depressed or too manic. Zoloft helps my crippling anxiety. Trazodone helps me sleep when the anxiety is too much. They help me function. They help make me, me. #myfavoritemeds#endthestigma
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