When we buck the status quo, we lose a lot of the framework that helped us see if we were on the right path in our lives. We question what our purpose is because it is no longer presented right in front of us. It feels scary to be all alone on these life paths without any direction of where we are going.
One of the things I love about women's gathering is that we get to share direction with one another. We bring a fresh set of eyes and experiences to each other's problems. We get to be vulnerable with one another and really share the truth of what we are facing or what we are searching for. Women's gatherings bring this sense of security and support that is unlike anything I've ever experienced before.
When I saw this photo at the museum I couldn't help but imagine a women's circle that included Suffragettes and participants in the Women's March. What advice do you think the women from 1912 would give today's women? What advice do you think we would give them? I have no doubt each party would benefit. Magic happens when women gather.
Over the years I have had to sit many exams for the courses I have studied. I can't say that it is a favourite activity of mine (although I have met one person in my life who loved exams... I still can't work that out, but each to their own pleasures...lol). What I found though is that there are some people who gathered outside the exam room whilst waiting for the doors to open, that flood the conversation with their anxieties.
"I didn't study that, did you, oh I hope that is not in the exam" or "I spent all my time learning this but didn't focus much on that. I will fail if there are questions on that" or "I am going to fail. I have a terrible feeling about this" or "What do you know about this topic, tell me, just in case it is in the exam" and so on. This could leave you second guessing your own preparation.
Have you noticed that when someone starts a thread of negativity, it turns into anxiety, and if allowed to continue, shows up as fear? Fear and anxiety have a contagious effect on others around. You don't need to take the fear of others as your own.
A strategy I developed was that I would turn up my usually early time for exams (I hated the thought of being late). Then I would sit in my car to avoid those who were consciously or unconsciously bringing their fear to the outside of the exam room. I would then turn up at the exam room doors 5 minutes before opening and hang back from those that were swirling in their fear.
Often a very simple strategy can be put into place to prevent you from being infected with the contagion of fear and anxiety. This negativity can be difficult to deal with, and more importantly, may not even be yours to work through.
Look for ways, strategies and beliefs that keep you in a positive zone, even when you are undergoing testing of some kind. ~
That is when your best shows up. You are designed to live joyfully, so avoid the contagion of fear and anxiety.
Sitting & waiting for the vet with my 2 crazy kiddos & my loveable Goldendoodle, I was messaging some of my peeps about their goals & sending some love and when I was done Mady said to me...”Do you remember what you were like before you started this?” Hesitantly I said “Yeah..” Mady stops looking at her phone and says to me so sweetly “I love who you are now. 💕 Don’t go backwards mom, I love you.”
Ok...yep - here is where I wanted to cry. But I smiled, said I would never! And hugged her so hard. 💖
Coaching has brought me health, lifted me from the mom fog I had & brought me life! It holds me accountable to my goals, focus on what’s important & pushes me to be better & to do better for them!🌟
It’s not for everyone, I can say that! But if you want something more, want to focus on your health goals, want that mom fog to be lifted, want to be in a fit-minded community of people who push you to grow, want to share your fit passion with others or want to make some extra $$ for your family...this is it!
I am mentoring 10 women this month who are 🆁🅴🅰🅳🆈 to make some changes, who want to light the world on fire & want more out of life! No experience needed - just enthusiasm, passion & commitment to your health 🌟 If you wanna hear the deets & see if this is something for you, drop your fave emoji 💜 below. I never knew this was what I needed. And it took me forever to jump...so I’m saying to you GF...jump, life’s too short to do it half a**. Be that example to your kiddos & do it RIGHT! 🔥
2 49an hour ago
I’m sure most of you wonder why I post the stuff I do. Well, I know what it’s like to be in the darkness of chaos, depression, bullying, anxiety, self consciousness- you name it- with no end in sight. The feeling of numbness and loneliness, even when you’re surrounded by a group of people. I know judgement and closed minds all too well. The reality of humans and what they’re capable of isn’t pretty. Being an empathetic soul in this world is bittersweet.
I also know that there is a bright light if you continue to seek it. There is so much beauty surrounding you if you look closely. Nothing lasts forever, and I am here to tell you that things do get better. Time is your best friend when it comes to healing. No matter the case. You also have to take responsibility for your actions and choices you’ve made. If you go through life playing a victim you won’t get anywhere. No matter what fucked up shit has happened to you, try to use it as a tool to grow.
You HAVE to surround yourself with people who are good for you, and you must be good to those people in return. It’s a two way street.
In the last year and a half, concentrating on yoga poses and going along with my yoga flows have helped me so much. My IG is kind of like one big diary that I hope motivates and inspires you guys. I might not be going through it right now, but I can relate. Even if one persons gets the message- thats what it’s all about!
10 259an hour ago
Medi went from a life on the streets with her child to supervising and training other women to sew these amazing bags, jewelry, and accessories!
@carry117 EMPOWERS women through sewing skills (really good sewing skills) to make a living and support themselves and their children.
The organization is founded on treating every human with dignity, love, and respect. If that’s not an organization you can get behind and support, then I’m at a loss for you
ps: check out their Etsy site. I’ve already raided it, but they have plenty of products left!
2 41an hour ago
I Am Warrior... I Have Earned My Stripes ... and I am so thankful for the support of my tribe .... How many warriors are with me, how many resonate comment and let me see how many we have in our tribe 💜
When putting together a successful nutrition/training program, you need to be methodically lazy. -
By going from 0 to 100 really fast, one of these two things happen:
1.) you burn out
2.) you run out of places to go -
For example, if someone eating well over their caloric intake drops their calories by 50% and goes from no cardio to a full hour a day...that person will fail, without a doubt.
That behavior is not sustainable; and even if it was, and that person can continue to give 100% to that diet for a month...what happens when they plateau? They have NOWHERE to pull calories from; how can they give another 50% to the already brutal 100%? They’ll likely drop calories and risk actually hurting their health; or cheat, regain all their lost weight, and then try again 2 months later.
So, when structuring your diet? Do the bare minimum first. Be lazy with your weight loss where you have to be. Drop 40 calories when the scale stalls. Or increase cardio by 3-5 minutes each session.
Going balls to the wall is NOT the key to achieving great results.
So yes, kick ass in the gym, and give your all to each training/cardio session, and aggressively stick to your plan, but also....Practice patience and know your shreds will come with time❤️
3 29an hour ago
In this world there are things so beautiful it rips to the core of your very being. One of those things is clearly @bluebear_theadventuredog and all dogs but especially him. The other is women. In particular this one here @ca_na_bal
4 23an hour ago
Oh my word have I been told I’m a handful, difficult, challenging, etc. I used to try to dim my light, play it safe, be less of me so my partner wouldn’t be sooo challenged. Not anymore. Buckle up boys it’s going to be a bumpy ride and guess what, you’ll have more fun if you use both hands with a Goddess. 😂😂😂🤷🏼♀️🤭🔥👑.
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1 81 hours ago
What better way to spend a weekend than digging in the dirt. And mud. And gravel muck. 😂 At least I had a skidsteer to help with the heavy lifting! 👍🏻
There are certain situations in life where you don’t know how they are gonna play out.
You take a chance and it can either be the worst f’in idea in the world or it can make you unfuckwithable.
These women have supported me, stood by me, cheered me, and guided me. (some having only “met” me yesterday”)
They have helped me realize that no matter what happens, what anyone says, or what drama ensues, I am comfortable enough with myself and journey that I am unfuckwithable.
That feeling and being a part of a community like that is priceless. .
I have been a part of this for the past 2 years. The healthiest 2 years of my life in more ways than 1. My only regret is that I didn’t start sooner!
Love you all and can’t wait to start with you all tomorrow!! 🍉THIS IS NOT THE TEQUILA WATERMELON TALKING🍉
Flashing back to our annual conference in Indy a few weeks ago! #girlcrush
Seriously thankful for this mama who took me in and how she believes in me and my squad! Her leadership and guidance has been a blessing on my journey and I wouldn’t be where I am today without her! ⠀
You could be a part of this amazing community of women too! All you have to do is be willing to get out of your comfort zone & dare to want something MORE in your life, Mama! 💓 Hit me up & let’s chat about your life goals!
I'm super excited for this upcoming week! Not only is it BOGO for oils, but I'm relaunching my group. I created it to be an amazing space for women to feel safe and be empowered to nourish themselves body + mind + soul.
There is so much to be done in this world for women to be able to create their life from a place of love, peace, joy, freedom and empowerment. If you feel it's time for you to make these changes for yourself, I would L-O-V-E for you to join me in bit.ly/NourishedBodyMindSoul
We'll be celebrating like it's 1999 (yes we're taking this back to when maybe things seemed a lot easier) ALL week long and the party won't end there. We're taking this down to the end of time ladies! Come and celebrate this amazing thing we call LIFE.
2 112 hours ago
Today was tough
I’m going through a break-up and all sorts of thoughts around how I used to deal with things started to creep back in
The old version of myself, where I used to sit comfortably, kept trying to persuade me to uptake old habits that I’ve let go of
Emotionally eat, negative self-talk, feelings of being unworthy, undervalued, and just wanting to be a sloth all day were some of what was coming up for me today
Did I ignore these feelings? No. I honored them. I recognized them (recognizing doesn’t mean you need to act on them but you must recognize and feel and accept them)
I made a deal with myself, today gets to be the last day I am feeling this way. I’m not ignoring my feelings or rushing myself but I know that this isn’t who I am and who I’m growing into
So I let myself pout, I let myself cry, I let myself lay around all day and feel sorry for myself- for today. I made sure to FULLY FEEL every feeling that was coming up for me so tomorrow I can fully RELEASE, move on, closer to the higher version of myself
When you have down days, because you WILL have down days, it’s important to recognize that you’re not going to feel this way forever
It’s important to recognize that you’re not who you used to be and you get to handle things differently
It’s important to recognize that you get to fully feel and express and give yourself permission to move on once you’ve done so
And it’s most important to recognize your self-worth and value yourself throughout the entire process. Keep yourself growing towards the better version of you
Not everyday will be smiles and sunshine and that’s OK. You’re human.
You can do it.
8 472 hours ago
Ladies, what's your opinion on this? I agree with the man when he said ”if love her, why would I want to offer her a lesser life than what she was raised with” But to say only Black Women thinks like is subjective don't you think?
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SURPRISE!!! I’m doing a new thing! I have recently fallen in love with @arbonne and everything that they have to offer. From the product to the people, Arbonne is good for my body and my soul, and I just couldn’t get enough soooooo I decided to start my business! I’m so excited to see what God has in store for me and my little family as I embrace this new journey. 💚 Stay tuned in to my InstaStory to see what I’m up to! •
3 152 hours ago
TOMORROW!! I start tomorrow, and I’d love to have you join me in my first exclusive test group. I have spent so many periods in my life where I was so concerned about when I would eat and exactly what I eat. It dictated my entire life. It’s not a fun way to live.
Fitness should compliment your life, ENHANCE it. Is shouldn’t BE your life. Fitness should bring freedom and opportunities to LIVE. Not limit you. Your fitness thrives in community with encouragement and positive influence. It shouldn’t isolate you from others. Your fitness should reveal your God-given potential...not leaving you feeling defeated. ☀️
So many people are overtraining and not allowing adequate rest and recovery time, so they’re not actually getting the results they want even though they’re working HARD! You’ve seen people like that at the gym (and maybe you’ve been one of them). My friend, Lauren👇🏽, was worried about going from 6-days/week workouts to 4-days/week workouts. But she trusted the process, went all in, and fell in love with the simplicity of it. 30-40 minute HIIT and lifting workouts - perfect for summer and travel season. These workouts are THE most efficient and have always been my favorite for fat loss. Hypertrophic training and a very simple meal plan with a built in treat day once a week. Sustainable for life. Girl, you have to eat and feed those muscles! And you can’t argue with these abs, right?! ☀️ I’m looking for women who want to lose weight or get shredded by Labor Day (did you see the pic?!👇🏽😵) and just surprise the heck outta themselves, unlocking potential and change while working out only 4 days a week for 30-40 mins and following a simple meal plan while also RESTING (or running/biking/or doing some other activity you love and don’t wanna give up) and LIVING LIFE.
Be a part of my VIP group, Sisterhood of Summer Shred. My coaching is always complimentary to you. ALWAYS. You’d have to purchase some supplies for yourself, so a little self-care investment is necessary. And if you don’t love your results, you can get a refund. Literally no risk. First come, first served. Drop your 🙋🏼♀️🙌🏼👙below. Sharing experience, passion, and motivation daily!
3 132 hours ago
🌿LOVED this one. ayiti is a beautiful collection of stories that explore the Haitian diaspora experience. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
🌿Whether they are leaving the island, returning, trying to acclimate to the US and all of the difficulties that come along— the stories are all unique. I loved the diverse characters- some well off, some just trying to survive, old, young, straight, queer. I highly recommend 💛💛 If you’ve read it, share your thoughts!! #grlpwrdreads#babesreadbooks#ayiti#roxanegay
5 1222 hours ago
Don’t let holding on to people that need to move on hold you back from living your best life 🖤
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1 516 hours ago
One of my favorite weeks is when doTERRA has their BOGO week! They've just announced that it is starting Monday with a new deal each day! 🙌
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Message me or comment below to find out more about our BOGO teams! You do not already need a doTERRA membership to participate - you can actually enroll with a BOGO order and get even more oils for FREE!👇 #bogoteam#bogosale#bogoweek
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Have a great Friday everyone and remember, girls wanna be CEO too! 😉 (📸: @greenwallscapes)
56 17872 days ago
It’s okay. I keep saying these words to myself in my head and I keep seeing them everywhere I go. And at the same time, it’s okay not to be okay. We can’t all be positive all of the time, it’s exhausting to constantly be on a high!
What’s fine about this is that it grounds us, feeling down and apprehensive and scared has made me take a step back and reflect a whole lot more on the direction I’m taking myself in. And that’s actually been a blessing in disguise! I’m ready to get myself back on track and keep hustling and keep moving now 🙌🏽
Everything is going to be okay 💓💓💓 📷: @thevividphotographers
Yay loves! 🤗 It’s @m.lovewell’s 2nd year anniversary! #woohoo 🎉 This post is dedicated to my amazing, wonderful & lovely friends over at @m.lovewell! 💖 Mel & Liz— you two are soo amazing & I admire you two so much!!! 🌟 You two have made such a positive impact in my life & @richardsgarage’s life too! 💛 Thank you so much for your beautiful friendship Mel & Liz & reaching out to me back in 2016 to host a Brush Lettering Workshop! 🖌💕 That experience completely changed my life & I owe it all to you two! Thank you for giving me an opportunity of a lifetime! 💛 We have been through so much together from my Brush Lettering Workshop, iPad Lettering Workshop, Intermediate Brush Lettering Workshop to hosting the MOST AWESOME lettering meet-up that @angeliqueink, @piecescalligraphy & I collaborated on. Mel & Liz — you both amaze me because not only did you let us use your space, but everything was decorated all cute & you provided so many goodies for us during the meet-up! 💗 Thank you for being in my life & adding so much laughter & color in it! 💖 I love you both so much. HAPPY 2nd BIRTHDAY @m.lovewell & I cannot wait to celebrate again with you tomorrow during my Brush Lettering Workshop!!! 🖌 Thank you for letting me be a part of your anniversary celebration! 🎉💖✨ #mlovewell#mlovewellworkshops#dtsa
My fellow weight loss warriors: the rule of 10 has been my tried and true method for staying consistent with my fitness program (along with the encouragement of my amazing coach @jenleahgottlieb) 💪🏻🙌🏻
What is the rule of 10 you ask? It means if I have a scheduled workout and I find myself making excuses to not do it (you know the drill...”I’m too tired, my calendar is full, I’m sore etc.”), I make a promise to myself to still get up and do it for 10 minutes. 99% of the time, I want to keep going after 10 minutes. I’ve found that getting started is the hardest part, but once my muscles are moving and the endorphins have kicked in, I am 💯 in the zone. #neverregretaworkout
There are times however, when even after 10 minutes, I am still not feeling it. This is where I have learned to practice grace, stop the workout, and not beat myself up for not sticking to my program perfectly (because we’re human and we’re not perfect!!). I give myself permission to LISTEN to my body and distinguish between laziness and an actual need for rest. Your body is smart - pay attention to what it tells you!
The same rule of 10 can apply to food. For example, if I’m at a social gathering and really eyeing a cupcake (I have such a huge sweet tooth, anyone relate? 🍰🍭), I give myself 10 minutes to step away from the situation and distract myself with conversation or other things. The craving usually subsides within that time period, but if I still find myself reaching for a treat after 10 minutes, I let myself enjoy it GUILT-FREE (and in moderation of course).
Bottom line: be kind to yourself.
The rule of 10 works to either start or stop something. The important part is giving myself time to make thoughtful rather than emotion driven decisions.
Have you used the rule of 10 before? Let me know if you plan to try it! 🙋🏻♀️
29 27023 hours ago
In the past, I have avoided conflict.
When someone disagreed with me, I would automatically think I was wrong. I would doubt my opinion, and even if I felt strongly about my view, I’d still avoid standing up for myself.
Thinking my opinion was wrong turned into feeling like I was a wrong, bad person. Like because I had caused a disagreement, I was less worthy.
This resulted in never standing up for myself, swallowing my anger or desire to express myself, instead telling myself, “be the bigger person. Forget about it,” while secretly stewing inside.
One day I had enough.
I realized I am a passionate, opinionated person and other people are too. Not everyone will agree, but that’s what makes life interesting.
I realized having an opinion others take offense to doesn’t make me wrong, or my opinion wrong. What if we were BOTH right (in our own minds)? I’ve also developed a deeper self-confidence so when people naturally run out of facts and begin personal assassination (I’m a really good debater), I see that as their problem.
Everyone knows a good debate focuses on facts and not the person. If someone else isn’t capable of a good debate, I walk away. (This is where a lot of debates go wrong.) It’s important to speak our minds. It’s important to also know when to walk away. It’s important that our souls trust us, to show we have the backbone to be true to ourselves even when it’s not easy.
Learning how to embrace conflict and speak your mind from a place of empowerment rather than fear is a pivotal part of self-actualization. Not all conflict has to turn angry or destructive.
I think the social move toward obsessive political correctness has mostly destroyed the ability to have a rational disagreement, which is a profound loss for society.
We can be the change and believe in ourselves so deeply that speaking our minds calmly, passionately and eloquently becomes an act of self-love.
It’s a balance because sometimes it is better to walk away, but for most of us - it’s scarier to say how we truly think and feel and so that’s where the work begins.
What is your relationship with conflict?
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