Children feel responsible, useless and helpless. This has striked me even more after a 10 year old girl committed suicide on the 6th of January (Dia de los reyes - Three Kings day) to make her mum the happiest women in the world. You can read the article on this link.
I literally had shivers reading about the tragic death of Aiia Maasarwe — yet another beautiful woman who had so much to offer this world gone far too soon, at the hands of a man with cruel intentions.
When will this end?
We all have a right to feel safe.
Yet again this echoes the fear us women so understandably have, all the time. It never goes away. It doesn't get any better.
The fear of walking anywhere at night. The fear of walking with headphones in just in case we can't hear someone coming from behind us. The fear of walking to our cars at night. The fear of getting off public transport as soon as the sun goes down. The fear of walking anywhere with poor lighting and absolutely fearing for our lives the moment we see a figure walking towards us or hearing footsteps behind us. The fear that exists in getting in an Uber or taxi with a male driver, which you think we should feel safe enough in. The fear of having to walk past a group of men hurling comments at you as if it's to be a compliment. It never ends...
This is why us women endlessly message each other after nights out to ask each other if we got home okay. This is why my mum messages or calls me if I've forgotten to tell her I'm going somewhere after work to ask me where I am. This is why I only ever have one earphone instead of both in when going for a walk (yes, even when in broad daylight). This is why, when I used to catch public transport home from a night shift, I had my best friend's number ready to call the moment I got off the train as I ran to my car in the dimly lit and empty station car park. This is why I dial 000, just in case, when I have to walk a fair distance back to my car at night, whether it be after a catch up with a girlfriend or a night out.
This is not a matter of shaming or hating on men, this is about us women having the right to feel safe no matter where we are, what time it is, what we are wearing or what state we're in.
I feel for us women and the fears we all share... It shouldn't be like this. For now, I guess all we can do is look out for each other? 💗👭
When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us - Helen Keller
There isn't just one door of happiness.. If only we could take our eyes off those closed doors, only then would we see the other doors opened unto us
Take your gaze off those closed doors Survivor
Happy weekend 💕
Women’s Unity Movement proudly presents: SURVIVORS 💪🏼💜 COMING SOON 🚨 This is a powerful photo series I created in LA in November with the purpose being to represent ALL; Women AND Male current victims & survivors of all forms of abuse. To educate society that abuse is not limited to gender, age, faith, race or lifestyle. I pray that our voices & message conveys in the right light & leaves you feeling empowered, motivated, educated & to feel an even greater care for those around you who may need your help 🙏🏼 A HUGE thank you to these beautiful queens for being so raw, vulnerable, inspiring & strong in sharing their stories & being a part of this shoot. Many tears were shared & strong bonds created ❤️ A huge thank you to @shotbyashton for being so passionate and caring towards this project 🙏🏼
I see this so often, how people put this huge pressure on themselves to be “happy”, and try to live up to this image of what that’s "supposed” to look like. That pressure is so unhealthy & stressful, defeating the whole purpose...also, it’s not like we can force it into being. We can work towards discovering what happiness means to US, individually, and begin taking necessary steps to living in that space more often, and we absolutely should be, but not with the mindset that anything less than that is somehow “wrong”. Happiness is one of many aspects of emotions and feelings we experience, we’re not meant to only live there. We are complex beings, and life itself is complex, so it’s just the natural flow of things to experience it ALL. I’m not sure I’d like the me I’d be without having known the struggles, pain & sadness I have. It’s made me who I am today, and I kinda like her :) And my appreciation for times of joy would def not be as profound. Some of my Very favorite people have known great loss & suffering, as a matter of fact. I think it has to do with how, through their tragedies and pain, they became more caring, compassionate, deep & loving souls. When we ourselves know how it feels to be depressed and/or hurting, we have great empathy for another’s suffering, and strive to help them in ways we ourselves maybe needed, or were helped. Experiencing the “lows”, also awakens us to ourselves on a deeper level, giving us insight we may not have arrived at without it. We grow, evolve, strengthen, awaken..in a beautiful way. Everything serves a purpose, and has its time and place. Of course I want to be happy more often than sad, just as I’d rather be healthy than sick for ex:... but it’s all a part of the journey, and if I’m of the mindset that one is “bad” and the other “good”, or one “right” and another “wrong”, I’ll be miserable, because all of it’s a natural part of the process. So to all of you who maybe feel like a failure, or guilty when you’re not profusely happy, or are depressed, I hope you give yourselves a break. EVERYONE goes through ups & downs, even those who present a picture perfect “image”, they just hide it well. ;) Love ♥️Leila
घरेलू हिंसा एक ऐसी समस्या है जो अक्सर कई पर्दों के पीछे छिपी रहती है। वैवाहिक रिश्तों में ऐसे कई मामले सुनने में आते हैं, लेकिन बहुत सारे ऐसे होते हैं जो कभी सामने नहीं आ पाते।
'मेरी जिजीविषा' की पंद्रहवीं कहानी 'श्वांस' इसी बारे में बात करती है। इसके साथ ही, ये भी बताती है कि आप कैसे अपने आप के लिए खड़े होकर, ख़ुद के लिए लड़कर, अपने व्यक्तित्व, अपने अस्तित्व को बचा सकते हैं।
इस कहानी को पढ़कर आपको कैसा लगता है, बताइए।
अगर आपने अब तक 'मेरी जिजीविषा' नहीं खरीदी है, तो bio में दिए लिंक पर जाकर अभी खरीदिए।
अपनी किताब के ज़्यादा से ज़्यादा पाठकों तक पहुँचने का इंतज़ार है मुझे।
It's happening Thrivers! I'm coming to the UK in February!
I can't wait to meet some of you in person and share the Thriver Vibe - it's going to be Amazing! .
To kick off the You Can Thrive After Narcissistic Abuse Book Tour I will be holding a Valentine's Day Special Talk at Watkins Books - details below.
Valentine’s Day Special Talk
Thursday, 14 February 2019 @ 6.30 pm
Watkins Books, 19 – 21 Cecil Ct, London, WC2N 4EZ
Then I will be holding an all day Alternatives Workshop where you can learn all about narcissistic abuse, how we are targeted by narcissists, as well as how to release yourself from the addiction and the pain so that you can truly Thrive in your abuse free life! Details are below.
You Can Thrive After Narcissistic Abuse - Alternatives Workshop
Saturday, 16 February 2019 @ 10.30 pm – 5 pm - Doors open at 10 am
De Vere West One, 9 – 10 Portland Place, London W1B 1PR
Ticket info: or pop over to Events on my facebook page for more details.
I'm coming over to you lovely people when it's my Australian summer, so hopefully I can bring some warm weather over for you! .
Thank you for buying my book 'You Can Thrive After Narcissistic Abuse' and making it a world-wide success 📘 ❤️ If you can't join me in London and would like to find out more about the book check out the link my Bio.
Much love xo ❤️
Thankful for the opportunity to share my story! @latterhouse_decor Design to end domestic violence one one home at a time through interior design....
2 112 hours ago
He says he wants to change, I see him making an effort. I feel conflicted. Should I keep waiting? How long should I give him. Is there a right amount of time? Do I have to give him the chance to change since I made the commitment of marriage? Is it too soon to give up hope? Why do I feel conflicted every day? Will I ever feel like I’m making the right choice? Why do I feel like I owe him so much, and he didn’t feel like he owed me respect? Why am I carrying so much burden for wanted to be treated with love and kindness? Why do I feel like I’m asking for too much? Why do I feel like a failure for not wanting to stay? Why does it hurt so much? How can I be so hurt and numb at the same time? #domesticviolence#loveshouldnthurt#emotionalabuse#respect#wheredowegofromhere#bestrong#doitformykids#keepgoing#loveyourself
Another life taken by the hands of a man. How many women have to die before people decide to take seriously the very real, ever present, issue of men’s violence against them?
It really sickens us to the stomach.. We as man need to take action and put a stop to this madness.. Rest In Peace Aiia.. Our condolences to the family.
4 153 hours ago
I wasnt going to do a #Tenyearchallenge because I cant really find a reason to do it, just wanted to come on here and share my 5 year Difference of what Freedom looks like for me,more and more everyday, Not truly where I want to be, but it’s more about the Journey, if you go after it. I’ve had so MANY ups and downs with my Journey in healing from my Domestic violence relationship...I was in for five years. It’s a Topic most are to embarrassed to talk about or make KNOWN that they went through such a thing. Took me years to confess even things from my childhood that should ever happen, things that happened during my pregnancy with my daughter that never should have happened and after! My older photos from Five years ago, Size 4 after giving Birth, a girl who had no self Worth, No self Love, would except any kind of love and Attention I desired/needed! A little girl who allowed a man to beat on me in front of my kids and cheat on me. A girl who was to scared to leave. A girl so controlled and manipulated. I was so broken down and beaten down mentally,physically and emotionally, I didn’t know how to leave a manipulative, angry, narcissistic sociopath, I Hardly ate anything while I was breast feeding my daughter for three years, lead me to be 115 lbs (I am also 5”8)giving birth, very thin and unhealthy badly ,was working Nights at the hospital and never slept. I’ve never truly Gotten the help I’ve needed for years up until a few months ago,I had my world Turned upside down-Realizing how badly I suffer from PTSD, body dysmorphia, anxiety and Depression and many other things. My last Black 👁 The Lord is truly reviling to me how much he wants to clean out of my soul and how badly he wants freedom for me! He’s telling me the cycle has to stop with me! This cannot be passed down to my children! I am so thankful Where I am today thankful to be alive for my kids, to be a better me everyday! I will never give up!
Não importa o que façamos , parece que nunca é o suficiente, nos sentimos sozinhas , desamparadas.
Até quando seremos pauta de violência em jornais ? Até quando suportaremos ameaças ? Até quando nos esconderemos ? Está na hora de dar um basta nisso ! Eu quero declarar sobre todas as mulheres que esta mensagem chegar, que você não será mais prisioneira de relacionamento abusivo , você não terá medo de procurar seus direitos , você não sucumbirá a gritos de machismo! Você não cederá à presentes de reconciliação . Chegou a hora de juntas estremecermos a terra 🌍 Ninguém encosta a mão em nós ! Não deixaremos nossos corpos serem violentados , surrados e ceifados. Vamos denunciar , você amiga, irmã , tia , prima, mãe , seja incentivadora , segure na mão 🖐Juntas somos mais fortes.
Merecemos ser amadas , cuidadas e respeitadas❤️ Que a justiça do homem seja eficaz, pq na de Deus ninguém terá escape.🙌🏻