Well said my soul sister! 👏💋 #Repost@aisootti (@get_repost)
Loving yourself has become the greatest act of rebel in today’s society that demands female body to be a certain way. At family functions and social calls I have made on my last visit to Kerala, I have invariantly been commented on my body weight or have witnessed someone else being discussed for having gained weight, become fairer or looking old. At a point I was told how much Aadam looks like me, but fairer! I shiver a little inside me when I have to witness my son growing up hearing people body shaming and thus being manipulated into thinking that only certain body shapes, skin colour and conditions are accepted or wanted in the society. The marriage and cosmetic industry has made it hell for women to be in their natural bodies and embrace it. Think about it. Body hair. Thick eyebrows. Sparse eyelashes. Pigmented skin or lips. Pimples. Big breasts-Small breasts. Grey hair. Wrinkles. Age spots. Stretch marks. Underarms. Pubic hair. What part of you is ever left alone? It is never enough. You never meet the standards. The “prettiest” of you is still touched up and blurred and stretched and thinned and airbrushed in the photoshop. You are trained to never love yourself. You are taught to never be happy about your weight and skin and age and beauty. But my dear dear loves, love yourself! Love how fantabulously byoootiful you are. What a rebel you are! Refuse to be moulded into what others want you to be. And the next time you see me with my kid- do not comment on how nice I look or how fat or thin or fair or pretty anyone looks. Not in front of him... Take me aside if you must- and then tell me. The image credit of the fabulous woman is from @bel.studio and I added my own wild flowers. #bodypositive#feminist#100daysofcreativity#feminichi#feministart#craftivist#handembroidery
0 2911:02 AM May 12, 2018
MY MY! ❤
sometimes you log onto social media and it might not be a good week. a good month. or even a good year. you scroll through a feed where a never ending list of bright smiling faces share their daily accomplishments and all the wonderful things they’re up to. suddenly you feel even more defeated. it seems you are the only one experiencing the darkness. the sadness. the loneliness.
that’s the thing about social media. it gives us a space to carve a reality of ourselves by selectively choosing what we want people to see. so we share the good. the funny. the sexy. the inspiring. but rarely the ugly. the lonely. or confused.
believe me. someone’s profile could look like the most perfect thing- but no one’s life comes close to perfect. i wrote this poem as a reminder to myself that everybody is going through hardship no matter where they are in their trajectory. sometimes we have to logout to take care of our mental health. especially when another person’s accomplishments begin to feel like your personal failures. that’s when you know you need a little self loving 💓
2 257:15 PM Mar 26, 2018
Couldn't find any embarassing pictures of the Instagram queen @piscesian_girl so had to adjust with this one.. also I knew the repercussions wouldn't be nice if at all I put up a picture of you, passed out on your bed even before the clock struck 12 on your birthday eve! Happy birthday to the only sister I will have in this lifetime :) your 1st bday as a married woman and your 1st bday in your 30's. I know life hasn't been a fun ride for us over the past few years, but with you together with me.. I do have our moments which I can cherish forever :) Like the random walks, shopping trips, guilty sweet tooth fixations, we have done it all together-moreover the random staying up awake in our room talking about all the things happening around.. Some things I don't understand, and some things you don't.. but its okay. As long as we got each other's back in the long run.. I think we are good :) Hope this year is all you want it to be, together with your loved one, happy, grateful and most of all peaceful.. like we can't ask for more! Happy Birthday chechi, and hope you don't wake up tomorrow with a bad birthday hangover 🤣. Have a good year ahead, well you've started it on a good note- not sober.
The New Year always calls for some retrospection. Like always :) Every passing year we wish for experiences and situations to be better, and that person would learn his/her lesson, leaves things to karma and goes off. Ultimately when none of these happen, we enter another new year wishing for the same. What we don't realize is we are just piling up this unwanted energy and negativity in our hearts and souls into being this toxic person unaware of what it's really doing to us. We become unhappy, sad, anxious, disappointed and wonder why it's us all the time. So this time, all I want for this New Year is trying to be accepting of change. I want to change for the better, I want to change for my sanity, I want to change for my physical being, and I want to change things that are under my control and let go of things that aren't. Few things that I have learned and keep learning the hard way.
Problems- It's a lie when someone tells you can lead a happy life sans problems. A person with problems is a true survivor I feel. Every passing year it's good to analyze and ask yourself why these problems have aggravated beyond our control, and you will come to this realization that it's simply because of our ego, stubbornness, and our incapability to let go of things. So moving into 2018, let go of small problems which are not worth your mental health and energy. If it's something beyond your control, walk away from it. It might sound too harsh and difficult, but I have realized the key to end all this is to put yourself first and if that means walking away from something that causes you discomfort and unhappiness then do it. It's worth the risk. Trust me
People- 2017 gave me family when it was dire most needed in all unexpected ways that I wouldn't have even imagined. Whether it's a kind word, a hug when it was most required, a pat on the shoulder saying "You are strong and don't let this break you" I have had people like family come and pull me out when I thought I was drowning and I had given up. You guys know who you all are and you have my whole heart. Thank you for being my constant support, my reality check and the reason for my smile and for being the joy to my soul.